During pregnancy women, their families and society, in general, tend to focus mostly on the needs of the mother. It is understandable as, after all, she’s carrying the child physically. However, we often forget the needs men have during this period. Much as they were involved in the creation process, they are just as involved in the development of the child while in utero. Dads are sometimes hesitant to express their concerns or need for support due to a fear of being seen as selfish; there are steps we can actively take to create a safe space for them to do so. They are undergoing as dramatic a change as moms but might feel like expressing their needs would seem selfish.
Research conducted by ManSoo Yu shows that while moms might be anxious about the prenatal and delivery, dads are heavily concerned about the future - how they will support their family, the kind of father they will be. Given our Caribbean dynamic, we know many of our men might not have been raised by their father or had a father figure in their home so this presents another concern for them - they had no one to teach them, will they know what to do.
There are ways we can create a safe space for dads to express their concerns and receive support without feeling like they're being selfish. It’s also a great idea to pamper them and to encourage their friends to do the same, much like they would do for us. Here are some neat, bump-friendly ways you can make dad feel loved and appreciated as you go on this journey together!
Let us know how you’ve made your partner feel more involved and supported during your journey or which of these you plan to do!
Published on: Parents.com
Research has shown that up to 33 percent of women experience clinical depression or an anxiety disorder at some point during pregnancy. Yet some studies indicate that fewer than 20 percent seek treatment, and that treatment is often inadequate, says Healy Smith, M.D., a reproductive psychiatrist at the Women's Mental Health Clinic at New York-Presbyterian Hospital in New York City. "The myth that pregnant women must be happy is still really prevalent," Dr. Smith explains. "Because of that, treatment providers may be less likely to inquire into a woman's mental state, and a woman might feel ashamed to bring it up." But you don't have to suffer -- there are safe ways to treat depression and anxiety during pregnancy.
Symptoms of Depression and Anxiety
It can be tricky to diagnose mood disorders during pregnancy because "some of the symptoms can overlap with symptoms of pregnancy, such as changes in appetite, energy levels, concentration, or sleep," Dr. Smith says. "It's also normal to have some degree of worry over the health of the pregnancy." But if you experience persistent symptoms of depression and/or anxiety, especially if you're unable to function normally, get help.
Symptoms of depression include:
By: Anika Repole Wilson (Published in B3 Magazine)
As long as I can remember I have always wanted to be a mother. In fact, my greatest fear was that I may not be able to have children of my own. On November 14, 2013, our wedding anniversary, we welcomed our son into our lives, and over the past few months, this beautiful soul has become my heartbeat.
Being a new mom has been a roller-coaster of emotions but an amazing and wonderful new period in my life. Lots of transitions have happened and lots more are yet to come, but I welcome them happily but with a hint of apprehension, for the sheer immensity and responsibility of being this child’s mother and making sure I do a good job, without potentially screwing up the poor kid.
However this journey does not begin at birth (which I was asleep for – that’s another article – look out for; ‘Birth Plans and Oh Crap Plans’). Over a 40 week period, give or take a few weeks, pregnancy is a beautiful experience, amazing, lovely….how many positive adjectives can I fit into this sentence?! In reality, pregnancy was both wonderful and also a very difficult experience which all serves to prepare you for the hardest and most awesome job on the planet; being a mother.
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