By: Anika Repole Wilson (Originally Published by: Laptops & Lattes)
There are many hard truths that one must face as we get older. Apart from the vanity of our own aging and emerging grey hair – we come to realise our own mortality and then if not before, that of our parents. It either happens in small glances over time when you realise their back may not be as straight, their walk a little slower, their hair a little greyer, their arms and hands a little weaker. Other times, this may hit you like a ton of bricks when one day you see your parent as no longer the invincible person they used to be, but someone you now feel the need to protect and care for instead of the other way around.
Other times, illness is the heralding factor. Illnesses like Cancer and degenerative diseases like Parkinson’s, Multiple Sclerosis or Alzhiemers can make your once indomitable parent weak and vulnerable. The saving grace of an illness like this, though difficult to deal with is that you are able to hopefully grow accustomed to the concept of losing them, as you lose pieces of them daily in relation to the progression of their illness. This, depending on the individual and one’s coping mechanisms, can be easier than dealing with sudden or tragic death. However regardless of cause, there is still nothing that can prepare you to lose your parent.
Why a ‘pit’ you may ask? Why not a line, a box, maybe even a cage? Depending on your reaction to this title, the ‘container’ of your preference would say a lot about your perception of other women and yourself, and also your experiences with the word bitch. Have you been called a bitch? Have you called yourself a bitch? Were you called that to your face, or you suspect behind your back? Were you called that in anger, fun, jest or admiration? Was it in the home, workplace or social setting?
To answer the first question; pit means an area that would be avoided, that also if you’re not looking at what you’re doing, you could simply fall in, or maybe be shoved into. Did you dig it yourself or is it a trap that you use as a defence mechanism for others to fall in, if they attempt to trespass, or is it a snare you use to catch your prey?
So you want to ‘Have IT All’ correct?! You could suppose that accomplishing that fete or at least coming close to it, involves a balance of all aspects of yourself, from the professional, spiritual, social, personal and then you have the VERY personal level. Now despite what you may think, this article won’t be as raunchy as you think. Apart from the more ummmm (searching for a word) risqué sex swings, are you aware of very simple and seemingly normal pieces of furniture that can help to improve your sex life?
This article will introduce you to the world of Sex Furniture and will also help you to take baby steps through a variety of simple techniques or options that you may unknowingly already have access to within your home – a beginner’s guide of sorts.
So what is Sex Furniture you may ask? You have heard of ‘Ergonomically Correct or Designed’ right? For example, your cell phone, laptop, tablet, pen, coffee mug, office chair are usually ergonomically designed, which means that ‘human factors’ are highly considered when designing certain items. So that the number pad on your smart phone can be easily reached by your thumb while the phone is still in the palm of your hand. Well, Sex Furniture takes Ergonomics to another level, a very intimate level.
When you consider the act of sex, or rather enjoyable sex for both partners, it’s not just about pleasure, penetration or orgasm. For both parties to have a satisfied encounter a plethora of factors come into play (we will save the tantric, emotional and mental aspects for another article *wink wink*). Great sex is a result of quite a complex combination of factors that work well together to ensure optimal pleasure. First time sex with a partner can sometimes be quite awkward and either a humorous or embarrassing encounter depending on the person.
These are the things we often not consider, right before hopping into bed with someone. Their height (no not length you naughty freak – ok just kidding that’s the second one on the list), length - but get this we are talking about length of arms, and knee to pelvis height, also how about width of their pelvis in relation to yours. Do you consider who would be on top or the potential rug burns, elbow bruises or headbutts on the headboard, wall or other random surfaces? What about your preferred angle for penetration or cunnilingus? Did you know that the position of your body can also affect the intensity of your orgasm? What about the back pain that can be caused by an awkward position, or do you have knee issues, does your partner?
Ok, so now that you are thoroughly turned off by thinking too much, sex furniture helps to take some of those issues away. These items look like pretty cool ‘modern’ furniture (with removable and washable covers) and come in a variety of colours and sizes. Specific pieces will aid in a variety of situations / conditions, assisting in optimal pleasure for different positions, as well as, aid persons who suffer from back pain, hip issues or knee injury to enjoy sex without discomfort. Sex furniture is ergonomically designed to assist persons to have some intimate fun, increase satisfaction and decrease discomfort and even the awkwardness of shifting positions, where knees often hit foreheads and the mood maybe thrown off.
So where can you get sex furniture and what if you don’t want to go that far yet, but want to try out new things in the bedroom? Ok let’s take the first question – a great website to order from is: lovebumper.com (got you smiling with that name eh J) but they only deliver within the US and Canada, so you would need to have an address there to receive. However, we have a resource right here in Jamaica that we can hook you up with for custom-made pieces, so email us at: firstname.lastname@example.org place “Sex Furniture Request” in the subject line and you will be contacted by our resource.
However if you want a few tips to get some more happiness in the bedroom (or wherever you like) try a few of these simple techniques for a start:
Place a pillow or a cushion at your lower back when your partner is on top. Raising your hips can assist in the act of penetration. It’s also less work J so persons with lower back pain will have an easier time trying this. This method is also great to try for cunnilingus, gives a whole new sensation and makes your partner’s neck more comfortable.
Go to the edge of your bed or the surface you are laying on. Depending on your partner’s height this can be a great help, it’s also easier on the knees.
Standing up during foreplay or finger-play is also a nice little trick. Your centre of gravity is now focused on your lower body; this increases blood flow to the genitalia and will also increase in pleasure.
On your tummy try placing a cushion under your hips, this helps making ‘doggie’ positions easier on the knees and back, also helps for correct hitting of the illusive g-spot.
Practice let’s also face the fact that everyone is different, so what works for you may be hanging upside-down right after doing 10 cartwheels or simple missionary. Try things out and get to know your own body as well as your partner’s.
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